A Day With Dave

Saturday 1 December 2001
FROM MY NOTES (from B's schedule):
Dave spent the day with Brian. I stayed in Ashland, making phone calls and walking. I talked to Robin, Tony Henthorn, John Linton, and Zak of The Greenman. All sent love and best wishes to Brian! Dave's friend George, too!
(I was beginning my search for a place for Dave and I to live in town, too)
Dave and Brian had breakfast together together, and worked on remembering what Brian ate to write in the Journal. According to the Journal, during Brian's ST sessions with Maria-Mercedes, he "talked and wrote Colombia" and did puzzles with Maria (puzzles/mazes on paper, following lines with colored pens and matching shapes). Brian also worked on these with Dave. (Maria-Mercedes was from Colombia)
Brian had PT with Sharla, with whom he waltzed (?!) and walked in the hall tossing a beachball. He was finishing the latter when I called Dave, and I got to talk to Brian on the phone! He asked me the usual remembering questions, said "I love you, Mom", and was off.
Brian had lunch  with Dave, and brad from school. Dave cut the visit short, because seemed a bit fragmented and tired. After lunch, Dave once again helped Brian work on remembering what he ate. Brian got weighed : 150 pounds.Dave left Brian alone a bit, to work on his puzzle homework, but it didn't work very well: Brian was having trouble concentrating all day.
During OT with Erin, Brian was very tired and lost at checkers. Dave left Brian alone a while, in bed, but Brian never did nap. 
They talked about sex a bit, with Brian asking, "Am I a virgin?" Dave said, "I know you are," and Brian responded, "Yeah, I'm a shy guy." He believes orgasms are the most intimate expression between two people. 
David Voeller and Randy Fitzpatrick visited. Randy had a difficult time with Brian's perseveration, and said, "This is the hardest part ever. I don't know if I can do this."
Emily Robbins and her mom, Bonny, visited into dinnertime. Marshall was there for dinner; it was his birthday. Dave set up Brian's December calendar on the wall next to his bed. 
I was with Brian from a bit after seven, until nearly ten. He was a bit agitated, and focused on the themes of Alana and how long he'd been in a coma and in the hospital. Mostly we talked about the latter. When I told him he'd been in the hospital eight weeks ("How long ago did I have my heart attack?") he wanted to know what he'd been doing since he woke up ("What have I been doing for 5 weeks? Why am I still in the hospital?") I explained that it has taken a long time to recover from the coma, and that he  is still recovering. Another question was, "Did you think I was going to die?" I replied that yes, I was afraid he might, at first. 
We walked several laps around the Unit, and, though he was tired, his gait was more even, he could talk and walk some, and his steps were longer. 
We got to bed about 9-9:15. I read him to sleep, finishing Looking Glass. he was very calm for the last 45 minutes.